Chi Phuong NGUYEN
This week, Noora was in Colombia, so
our trio team changed the coaching way. Due to the conflictual timetable, we
had seperate coaching sessions, I had the face-to-face coaching with Muriel on
Wednesday and a Skype coaching with Noora on Friday. On Wednesday coaching
session with Muriel, we were in the cafeteria. Other people were present near
the table where we sat but we didn’t found any difficulty to share our intime
thoughts. It can be resulted from the fact that we become good friends after
several coaching sessions and feel at ease to share your thinking and emotions.
I started talking about my experience and it was a little bit long but Muriel
was really patient to listen to my whole story. She summerized my experience,
pointing out certain aspects that she found interesting in my experience and
asked me certain questions about my parents’ expectation and how it could
affect to the way I would bring up my child. Their expectation and comparison come
more from the social context. Indeed, in Vietnam, people are intent to ask
others more about their personal matters such as how many kids you do have, how
much money you gain as your salary, what position you occupy in your company,
what your kids ranking at school is…
In her experience of Solo Presencing, Muriel
had clear images of people who influenced her life (her grandmother, her close
friend), her favorite animal : a bird, the North edge of New Zealand where the
oceans meet.
It was interesting that all of us chose
the Solo Presencing to practice for this week coaching assignment. And I could
find a lot of similarities with the experience of both Muriel and Noora. With
Muriel, she mentioned about the image of a bird with freedom. That image
reminds me of my favorite imagination in which I imagine myself as a fish
swimming in the deep blue ocean. When we were a bird or a fish, we wouldn’t
feel anymore the pressure or the gravity to keep us from doing what we could do
or going to where we wanted. I wonder if the gravity in that case refers to the
social pressure or prejudices that we have in our daily life. I love the deep
ocean because the origin of life on Earth started from the ocean hundred of
million years ago, and there were still so many things that we couldn’t
understand or discover yet in the deep ocean. We both agreed that face to the
nature, human, was too tiny, but each tiny individual played a certain role in
this life.
Her story about her close friend also
reminded me of my soulmate friend. I think that everyone has a special friend
with whom we feel to be ourselves, we don’t need to make any effort to be
someone else but be ourselves. Someone with whom we can share everything in
life without being judged, someone who supports us, who listen to us whenever
we want. Someone who helped us to realize our values, our strengths, our valuable
existence to others. And that special friend was my ex-girlfriend.
Noora and I had a similar concern about
the stress of the person that we wanted to be, to meet up the expectation of
others for ourselves and how ambitious both of us were. Noora finally found out
that she was happy with what she is doing now. She didn’t have a particular
person that influenced her much like Muriel had (her grandmother) but she spent
a lot of time talking with her sisters and shared a lot with her sisters.
In conclusion, this exercise of Solo
presencing was very interesting and valuable for us to help us find out about
our meaning of existence, our values. Certainly, I’ll practice this exercise of
presencing more often. And I think that the presencing is also precious for facilitating
the communication, help members in a team/organization to realize his/her
strengths, interactions with others.
All of us agreed that travelling helped
us to discover ourselves better, to see our authentic selves more clearly.
Indeed, when we go to a new country, a new environment, we have to change our routines,
change our mindset, we don’t have enough help from people or relationship that
we had established before in our home country. We have to adapt to the changes
and those changes trigger our hidden abilities. And in that context, we can
discover our authentic self.
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